Opinions. They're everywhere. Consenting opinions, dissenting opinions, opinions that mostly agree but still don't quite like one another. This applies is all aspects of life. Marriage, child rearing, work, travel, politics, and it some circles, like this one, diet specific opinions. In this arena, we're going to discuss the latter.
I hear opinions on diet floating around me each and every single day. What so and so thinks so and so should or should not be eating. How so and so knows how to lose weight "better/easier/more efficiently" than another person, or how certain methods just don't work and it's their civil obligation to let said person know.
My diet has changed and evolved over time. The way I eat now is polar opposite to the way I ate when I first started out trying to lose weight. It's different than I ate a year ago, even six months ago. I don't think any singular method was superior to another. At each moment in time, that method was working for me. When one method stopped working, I moved on to the next. One thing I can say with absolute certainty, I put a lot of time and effort into planning how and what I was going to eat. Hence, harsh criticism of my diet felt like a personal attack.
I have moved on from these feelings. I can see these criticisms for what they are now,"That didn't work for me so it won't work for you" People have constantly given me their opinions on what I'm eating. Whether I asked for it or not. I realize, present day, by writing this blog about my weight loss and fitness journey, I'm asking for opinions and feedback. However, it baffles me when I hear this going on around me in day to day interactions with other people.
Critiquing another person's diet is incredibly personal. It's personal for several reasons, the largest however being, this person has already admitted they're unhappy with their body. So unhappy in fact, they're willing to overhaul their life in an effort to change it. Admitting these feelings is personal, it can make you feel weak in the beginning, transforming into empowered over time. Start at the bottom.... However, imagine so and so comes in with a superior attitude and bashes said plan. Youch! Stick a fork in me and twist it! Unless someone specifically asks me for my opinion, I'm keeping my mouth shut. Here's why:
1. What works for one person may not work for another and vice versa. My way of shedding lbs is in no way superior to the next. If it works for you, go on witcha bad self!
2. Each and every person is different. Each person is living a different life. Each person needs to figure out what works for them individually. Again, see number one.
3. People have to make their own mistakes. It's part of the process. We learn by trial and error. I've always been the type of person who has to learn the hard way. Everyone isn't like that, see number one, but I am. Guess what? That's OK!
4. Focus on yourself. Work on you. If what you're doing really is a superior method, it's going to show in your results. Then people will ask for your opinion. Focus on refining yourself, and the rest falls into place.
Elle Noel's guidelines for diet opinions:
Before critiquing or diet bashing, evaluate the following: Does this person seem motivated and encouraged? Yes. Keep your opinion to yourself. Does this person seem discouraged and frustrated? Ask if they'd like some help.
Remember weight loss is a personal journey. Be kind to others. Don't kick them when they're down.
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